There aren’t many things that you need to do to live a life that is meaningful, fulfilling, successful, purposeful and happy.
Not very many things.
You will do many things in life, but achieve all these, there aren’t too many things to do.
But there are 3 major moves that can make or break everything.
3 major decisions that mean something, that will determine how the course of your life will go.
Get these right and everything else falls into place.
Get them wrong, and everything fails
Everything.
Decision 1:
Who you are: This speaks to your identity. Your identity is not who you were told to be, who you think its ok to be, or who is acceptable to be.
It is who you were made to be. Who you were created to be.
If you figure this out, a lot of your problems will disappear. Almost immediately.
Do you remember one of those sayings that’s popular on the internet? ‘I’m letting go
of what doesn’t serve me?‘
Well, how do you know?
How do you even know what doesn’t serve you, really?
The truth is, we have within us places we’ve been, people we’ve met and loved,
books we’ve read, etc., all jumbled up within us, dictating our lives. So many times, when you speak, it wasn’t really you; it was your dad. When that attitude showed up, it was your mom. That decision you made? Yeah, that one, not you, it was a past lover.
All these people are mixed up in you.
And then, there’s you.
The problem with that is when we don’t hear our own voice anymore. We don’t even know what our own voice sounds like. All we hear are all these people we’ve connected with one way or another.
As a result, you may end things you think don’t serve you, not because they don’t.
But because that person in your ear made it seem like it doesn’t.
Do you really want to be a stay-at-home, or are you doing it because everyone
says it’s cool now?
Do you really want to run a million-dollar company, or is it because that’s what may make you get respect?
Where’s your voice amongst all the voices?
Where are your desires and thoughts amongst all those thoughts and desires in your head?
Which one is yours and which is theirs?
Where did you lose YOU as you journeyed through life?
Where are you?
Who are you?
Do you know?
Decision 2:
What you’re called to do: This speaks to your purpose, your life’s work.
Purpose is another buzzword in the media today, and it’s sad because it should be, but at the same time, it shouldn’t be.
It should be because purpose is everything, it’s why we are here, it’s what we should all be
busy doing, it’s the essence of our lives – or it should be.
It should be the topic of conversation from homes to schools to offices, everywhere.
In fact, no matter how popular it is, it is never going to be talked about enough. It is why we are here.
At the same time, the problem that a buzzword creates is that when we make something
a buzzword, it loses credibility; it becomes one of those things, and not the main thing. It loses its power. And, sadly, it’s becoming that now. And as a result, people begin to get it wrong.
For example, many think they’re living their purpose, but sadly, they’re not. Some woke up one day and thought
Yeah, this is it, let me call that my purpose and do that because it looks good, feels good, and it seems to have all the buzz now.
No.
Purpose isn’t that fickle. It was astonishingly designed with excruciating detail just for you.
It is the reason you were made the way you are.
All of your quirks, personalities and desires, proclivities and ideologies, even where you were born, how you were born, to whom you’re born to, were intentionally, delicately
selected in the realm of heaven amongst celestial beings, as you were packaged
and sent to earth through a vessel you called mommy and daddy, so no, your purpose isn’t to inspire people like you saw on instagram even though in fulfilling purpose, people may be inspired, but you wouldn’t even begin to figure out what it is your true purpose actually is if you haven’t done the identity work first, lest, you hear the voice of others and they lead you to themselves, and you begin
to live their dreams and reality, thinking it’s your own.
Purpose is what we should focus on before anything else. It determines everything else, even your choice of course in school, the job you’d do, how you’d live, etc.
So, Purpose, one of the most important decisions in your life, shouldn’t be played with,
delayed or picked with recklessness.
Decision 3
Who you marry: this is very clear. I can just stop here, but for the sake of all that is good and beautiful, let’s go deeper. Do you know that marriage is the oldest institution on earth?
Creation was delicately planned and was placed one after the other. From light to day and night, to dry land and the ocean, to the birds of the air, the animals, then man and woman.
Everything else you see on earth today came after man and woman were joined together as one. Marriage is that old.
Marriage is extremely important.
Take marriage as seriously as you’d take a 1% chance of making it in surgery.
It is that serious.
Who you marry can either make or break you, elevate or diminish you, increase your light or turn it off, steward your purpose and gifts or shrink it, facilitate your peace or bring you chaos, mourn with you or be why you mourn, pour life into you or literally kill you.
And the chances of getting it right are dependent on:
- If you know who you are, then you know what you really want.
- If you know your life’s purpose, then you know who will be the best fit.
There’s a higher chance of making it with your person if all of these are aligned.
You don’t choose based on age, finances, or biological clock, which are all great, but they come secondary.
Identity and purpose are the primary reasons to choose.
Every other element comes underneath.
These are the decisions that intelligent and wise people get right for a life of harmony.
Sadly, many intelligent and wise people fail at one or
all 3 and they pay dearly for it. Don’t let that be you.
If any of these resonated with you, then I want you to know that this work is exactly why School of Relevance was born.
To help you build or rebuild your identity, uncover your life’s purpose, and learn to pick right.
I work with very few people, so if you’re serious about becoming the best version of you to live in alignment in every area of your life, join my 1:1 program, Destined
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